The scene begins with an air of anxious anticipation. For example, let's say you're a salaryman of some sort and you're on a sales call. You're nervous, but it's time to take the plunge and it's too late to back out. Of course, at that company you're visiting works an acquaintance of yours that you're head over heels in love with.
You spend your idle time at home masturbating to her. Your old 'woman hole' (Japanese version of a flesh light) is worn out and you're thinking of trying a new model—but will it fit right? You're awfully used to the one you've been using.
How about we make this a sex scene? Instead of yet another one about losing virginity, let's imagine you're doing it with that dear acquaintance of yours. No matter how many times you've fantasized about being with her, bedding is still an affair met with nervous anticipation.
The most perilous moment is when it's time to take off her panties. During kissing and then foreplay, she's bound to have become very wet though it's not possible to tell what the end results of this 'play' has led to with them still on. With sex friends you've gotten used to womanhood's great variety in shapes, sizes, colors, and even the length and texture of their pubic hair. But with her?
Granted, she's probably not hiding anything nefarious down there but not all women emit ambrosial freshness when aroused. First impressions count and no matter what she may look like, it's prudent to keep your game face on. However, humans all have a sixth sense and men also have the benefit of following their hunches. 'She might be on to me,' you ponder.
A slight crack in your poker face at this key moment could lead to a sharp degradation in the romantic atmosphere. Of course, first time sex jitters that certainly happens to many of us, but how can one weather the storm of potential sub-tropical miasma?
Keep your senses plugged via kissing
Kiss to keep your mind focused away from what's going on down there. Woman like kissing and if you engage in some intricate tongue-locking, they'll feel more at ease with the more physical events to come.
Use those hands
Take your hands and use them to grip hers to avoid them going to places they may not yet be welcomed at. If she can feel them, your hidden desires may still remain covert.
Laugh it up!
Joke around with her about what you want to do. This may soften the tension and it's easy to pull off.
Of course not harming the romantic atmosphere from the get-go is crucial, but what comes after is even more so. Even if things don't start off too well, you can recover your bedtime reputation through further experimentations in foreplay and wooing her with impressive technique come the main event. Consider these bullet points above when planning on bringing out your a-game and approaching her for real.
Written by Mikako Kikuchi.
Mikako Kikuchi was born on March 17th, 1977 in Morioka, Iwate Prefecture. Between the ages of 21 and 29, she worked as a cabaret club hostess, telephone sex operator, and an AV actress. She now writes for a living.
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(Translator's Note: This is a mildly detailed way to conquer one's fears of being a good performer in the bed (after taking the first steps out of your fantasy by actual approaching your target). However, do take note that most women—especially those in Japan who have no work experience in neither the water trade nor AV (unlike Mikako Kikuchi) have probably less experience in being good at lovemaking than you do. Nevertheless, maintaining a calm and relaxing atmosphere is critical for a good session especially if you want this to be more than a simple fling with a cute office lady dealing with built-up perspiration from working all day.)
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