(Translator's note: this is the seventh entry in the Men's Cyzo Japanese Sex Worker Series and unlike the first three entries, this one more closely follows the flow of an interview hence its categorization on My Dearest Desire. This is another great read into the Other Side of Japan that is only hinted at in mass consumption media. This is prime material for those wanting to know more about the various sex industries that make up Japan's red light district along with adult video from unique perspectives of those who actually walked the walk.)
True love is something most women still in their late teens are fixated upon. Not G-ko (currently age 29), however. She was as asexual as they came. Perhaps this was due to the fact she attended an all-girls school? I also attended one and I recall having absolutely no interest in male-female relationships and I think that's the case with most people who went to them. One of the methods of interaction with the opposite sex are school-organized Japanese-style group dates with all-boys schools and colleges.
G-ko was not into the group dating scene. Rather, she was a band groupie—also known as a band gyaru (Translator's note: a band gyaru or 'bangyaru' is a type of gyaru who is a major fan of Visual Kei bands). They—and by they I mean females as this is something men simply do not take part in—generally congregate at concert halls long before shows begin in hopes of meeting band members. Either way, she did not feel inferior when she was acting out her hobby. G-ko actually was more into the stagehands rather than the band itself.
G-ko's turning point came when she was 20. She graduated from high school not that long ago and found a regular day job along with a nearby apartment where she lived by herself. Her female coworkers were all much older than her and occasionally she'd be invited to go out for drinks with them. Instead of going to gaudy bars, G-ko found herself frequented izakayas with a more subdued old-school feel to them (Translator's note: imagine a restaurant less chic and more bland. Decorations—if there are any—consist of Asahi Beer posters from the 60's and the staff consists of one or two women well over 70).
These drinking gatherings at first were between G-ko and other female coworkers, but eventually they became one-on-one's with people at the old school Izakaya. She didn't live far from her frequent haunt so it wasn't that big of a deal going there so much.
One time on the way home from drinking, G-ko brought someone from the Izakaya back with her. I asked her if she did not know taking a man back to where she lived by herself was dangerous.
“The guy was like 60. I figured there'd be no way he'd be capable of having sex.”
I'm in my thirties and am very well aware that men that age still have perfectly healthy lower bodies. G-ko, in her twenties, assumed any man her senior was a certified invalid geezer who could not get it up by any means. The wonders of physical love was something G-ko still possessed near nil knowledge about.
That 'old guy' from the Izakaya? He had knowledge and the physical means to back it up and showed G-ko how it was done.
“I wasn't sure what to do. This was my very first time and I apologized to him, but he said I had nothing to be sorry for.”
Soon after, he was inside of her and I'm sure he was loving every minute of it. It's not often a 60 year-old gentleman has the opportunity to deflower someone decades younger than him—and make no mistake, at this point in time G-ko truly was a true blue Japanese virgin.
“It was a seriously shocking experience!”
For most Japanese women fresh out of their hometowns and living on their own, loosing their virginity to someone more than double their age is undoubtedly a devastating experience. For G-ko it was anything but.
“It was the opposite, really. I was level-headed and he was shocked at how calm I took it.”
This was the beginning of G-ko's relationship with that lucky 60 year-old gentleman from the Izakaya. What's more, this was her first boyfriend. Sex, at first, must have been a thrilling experience, but did it lead to anywhere? Did it become more and more pleasurable with time?
“Older folks are stubborn and set in their ways. They won't change how they have sex for anyone including myself and I found that suited me well.”
Sex may not have been the reason, but they did part ways after being together for a year.
Right after they split, G-ko signed up for a Mixi account. Yea, Mixi. Remember that? I sure did. 8-9 years ago I was active and even dutifully kept a daily diary. There were even times I used it to hook up with guys for some fun encounters. G-ko also gained a wide audience of male admirers who also used the service. One of them enabled her to change her life's perspective once again.
Men's Cyzo recommends this title to readers of this article.
Written by Mikako Kikuchi.
Mikako Kikuchi was born on March 17th, 1977 in Morioka, Iwate Prefecture. Between the ages of 21 and 29, she worked as a cabaret club hostess, telephone sex operator, and an AV actress. She now writes for a living.
(Translator's note: Visual Kei has been an aspect of the Japanese youth subculture for neigh on two decades now—longer if you count some of the hair bands of the eighties. Criticism from long-standing pioneers of the genre about how younger bands look and sound alike has increased as of late. That's a story for another day and another site really.)
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